Most of us like the fantasy that if we stop thinking, or stop thinking so much, and let things flow naturally, everything will turn out fine. In reality, sometimes the first impulse is the best, other times the greatest deliberation is best, there are many spaces in between, and I know of no recipe for telling reliably which situation is which.
In Macbeth, William Shakespeare's rapidly falling hero loses what he considered a good opportunity and in a moment of enlightenment decides to hesitate no more. Instead, he will now put into effect his first impulse immediately before the moment can pass. First order of business: send soldiers over to the castle of one of his commanders where they'll kill everyone inside, including women and children. This is too much even for Lady Macbeth, who'd goaded him into his first murder, and it's pretty much the final straw for them both. Only the most craven of cronies follow them from there. Soon they are both dead and utterly disgraced.
We all know Macbeth shouldn't have acted that way, whether he considered it "genuine" or "brave" or "his true self" or anything else. But if it really was what felt natural in that moment, how do we distinguish? Any list of moral injunctions quickly becomes simply a list. "Always follow your instincts EXCEPT" is not in the spirit of "always follow your instincts," and "be your true self EXCEPT" is not in the spirit of "be your true self."
Our brains are highly parallel, made of about 86 billion neurons running side by side, communicating sporadically (for them) but extensively. We cannot describe 86 billion lines of thought at once, however simple each might be. Our senses and instincts supply us with rapid interpretations and small sets of options tuned to these. Often this works relatively well, and experience improves the auto-interpretations and sets of options. But we must make ourselves aware that the system works via zillions of shortcuts that result in many biases. "I always follow my gut" can only mean "I'm quite biased and could be less so."
Various lines of research suggest that when we make decisions holistically - by intuition, instinct, feeling - rather than deliberatingly and logically, we often make better decisions. When I say "often," I should probably say "very often" or even "usually." As mentioned earlier, 86 billion lines of thinking can't really be tracked at once. Even if each is highly fallible and nigh nonsensical, the sum of their efforts may actually be quite good. This, in part, is the fabled value of believing in yourself, trusting your instincts, and so on.
It's also, I would argue, a lot of the value of "having faith," even in a religious sense. One function of religion, and a core one, has most likely been giving people a sort of permission to worry less and let things flow. The religion provides a set of pointers - an eightfold path, ten commandments, five pillars, mystery of the way with social commentary to boot, etc - to keep "just let things flow" from becoming too problematic the way it did for Macbeth.
This is useful, but I would argue that it is not the end of the story.
Sometimes, we have also found, a great deal of what Edgar Poe's detective Dupin called "ratiocination" - in other words, thinking deeply and logically - is exactly what the doctor called for. Science through the centuries has roundly disproved the notion that mere mystery, mere trust, mere acting natural, was all we could ever need. It turns out figuring shit out is hard work, and that kind of "overthinking" is tremendously useful both for individuals and for society.
More recently, Barack Obama was a proponent of the book Thinking, Fast and Slow. I haven't read it (yet), but I gather it's about this very topic. Sometimes our best bet is to turn off explicit "thinking" and go with the parallel votes of our parliament of neurons. Other times, the best bet is to break things down, break things down some more, assess, weigh, discuss, second guess, third guess, gather more clues, filter them for reliability, and on and on, practically as much as you can bear and perhaps a little more; don't overlook the power of outsourcing.
Another book I haven't read and should is The Wisdom of Crowds. We all know mob rule is hardly ideal, or most of us anyway (I won't speak for the anarchists), but there are certainly times when groups of people, just average people, are likely to do better than any one person, even a panel of experts. How can we tell the difference? It's a related problem. It's again parallel versus serial thinking, group versus individual. Multiple lines versus one step at a time.
The power of parallelism explains why instinct and crowds often know better than careful analysis or experts. But the power of parallelism is not magic. It is very much within the realm of science. It is not infinite. It is not immune to study.
Just because going on instinct often works out, and in some situations might even be relied on to work better than trying to use logic, does not mean that this approach is always better. Nor does it mean the parallel paths could never be split out into single chains of logic. We should not, in my opinion, turn it into a religion. Windex may be better at cleaning your windows than alternatives you've tried; you might even have some research backing that up; but please let's refrain from gathering at altars to Windex.
For some of you, this might give another angle on why I object to certain kinds of popular advice - along the lines of you must be confident, stop caring what anyone thinks, always trust your gut, just be yourself, etc. These directives help by putting us into parallel frames of mind, but shutting off logic is far from a panacea, and sometimes - let's remember Macbeth a moment, again - it's an atrocious idea.
Trump's problem is less that he's insecure than that he's too constantly confident. People who believe confidence is equivalent to goodness or admirability have trouble recognizing that the Trumpian kind, the vaguely magnetic and vaguely disgusting hubris that make people like him "successful," is, nevertheless, an *excess* of confidence rather than, per se, toxic insecurity. Chalking the negative consequences up to low self-esteem is a rationalization.
Parallelism is not always the answer, just as trying to use logic is not always the answer.
So far I have attempted to - and perhaps have - cracked the "sacred cow" of "always go with your gut" and related urgings to get married to parallelism and only parallelism. But what can replace it, other than a creeping worry that whichever way we approach a problem, we're doing it wrong?
Well, I cited two books that might have useful suggestions I don't know about.
Very approximately, it's art versus science. If I'm improvising music, I go with my instantaneous feelings; that's a vibe I cultivate, and the more I do, the better my playing seems to get (more or less). Something very similar seems true of dancing. These are modes of self-expression. There isn't really a wrong way to play, and provided you aren't hurting anyone, there isn't really a wrong way to dance. Trusting your own sense makes your movements more coherent, and this tends to make them more elegant and emotional as well. On the other hand, how you feel really makes no difference to whether your math work is correct.
Yet this does not mean no physics is in art and no feeling is in math. The Yin-Yang isn't a terrible representation of parallel/serial dualism. My spontaneous music would be much worse if I hadn't, in other moments, slaved over chords and scales and principles of harmony and which note is the "right" next note in this famous piece I love and so on. Meanwhile, my math wouldn't math if I didn't use my imagination. Mathematicians' brains look a lot like jazz musicians' brains when they're at work. Left-brain versus right-brain is too simple.
Are we talking about a matter of opinion? Something subjective? Which job or college or club is "right" for you? Parallel is more indicated. What about something objective? Something that just is, regardless of how anyone feels about it? Serial is more indicated.
Most of life is some combination.
To let things flow, it really helps not to be worrying, and so as not to be worrying, we may make general reassurances to ourselves that are not, in point of fact, really true. "Everything will be fine!" When has that actually been true overall? "God is protecting you!" Is he, now? Probably not particularly. Take a look at other lives. Is God protecting them? I see a lot of suffering and death, much of it radically unfair, so unfair it almost seems to be rubbing the point in to us all that the universe insists on not being fair. That doesn't feel like godly protection.
Yet we tell ourselves these comforting things to help our minds settle into parallel operations that often work out quite well for us, as they evolved to.
The view above seems, to me, more detailed, more plausible, and more explanatory than what I hear day to day. It is a result of thinking both fast and slow.