I find one of the easiest ways out of polarized thinking is not to think in terms of "both sides." To be fair, there's nothing at all wrong—whatever people tell you—with scanning a POV that you find deeply faulty as if there might be something to it. There is something to it, no matter how wrong it may be in sum. Always. (I'm fully confident I can convince you of that, but it's another story.)

"One of the easiest ways," I said. There are others. But the fastest trick I know is to recognize that there are more than two sides to every story. If you're caught in the "A versus B and who is right" trap, find the door. Turn on the light, fumble in the dark if you have to. Get your hand on the door handle and turn.

To be blunt, it ain't A versus B. Those are two angles. We've counted to two. Find a few more, and nine of ten times you'll have left a false dilemma; you'll realize with some relief (and hopefully not too much embarrassment) how trapped you were by your own POV, even if it did happen to be "more right" than "the other" (ie, whatever other POV you felt confronted by).

We learn to count to ten before responding when angry, but we should also count to ten POVs before we suspect we've found a clear view of a scenario. This of course does not apply to an emergency that relies on split-second timing. But if you've got time to talk, and next week is about as good as this week, expand, expand, expand the horizon. Often you can do much of this yourself, simply by undermining your certainties, asking questions, seeking existing expertise, etc. But there's nothing quite like other people for catching oversights.