lundi 16 août 2021

There are groups that have been grossly and tragically mistreated - and not just temporarily, but for far too long. These include oppressed orientations, genders, religions, and "races." All need to be respected, accommodated, and helped to feel welcome in society. It isn't enough that they're still alive or grudgingly allowed to exist if they keep quiet. We need to work to welcome people who are different from us.

On the other end of this, when a group has clearly been mistreated at large, they have a lot to say that needs to be heard - yet this does not mean that everything they tend to agree with each other on is entirely true and accurate.

It's difficult to disagree with someone (let alone a group) you want to support and don't want to offend, stress out, or shut down, but it can be a useful thing to know how to do.

It isn't something you should spend all your time doing. But many people will not dare at all, or will even see daring as immoral. Alternatively, they'll get militant about promoting their diverging opinion and turn themselves into assholes for no good reason.

No one is right about what they say just because they are abused, or just because others agree, or just because it would sound bad to disagree. It doesn't work like that. Neither, of course, has anyone got it right just because they aren't in the minority here.

But if you hope to make some kind of point along these lines, in the context of what someone experiencing abuse/oppression might say that may (like any other statement from a human or a group) not be exactly accurate, representative, fair, etc, you need to start from a position of extreme compassion. If you don't, it will not go well. Even if you do, it'll probably be tough.

Still, there is a need for this in the world. Just not too much. Small, measured doses. And be kind. That goes usually, but especially here.